Episode 11: The Truth about Achieving your goals

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Happy New Year, friends!! Kristi & I are so thankful for 2018 because it was the year that brought this community together. After our stint on TV at the start of the year, we wanted to create a way to make a continued impact on this world so we started, the Balanced Pursuits Podcast. We want this podcast to serve as a dose of inspiration to create a life you love! And we don’t say that lightly.

Having a life you love does not mean your days will be free from difficult times, but it ensures that you’ll find your efforts worth while. We believe in pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone, exploring the inner workings of our mind, and living life on our own terms. Hopefully our guests help lead you into seeing new possibilities for your future! If there is someone that you want to hear from or learn more about, please let us know and we’ll see if we can get them on the show!

Okay, now onto this week’s episode: The Truth about Achieving Your Goals.

This week we sit down to explore goal-setting in a way that isn’t commonly addressed. While we value the message of setting S.M.A.R.T. goals, we felt there was enough information about the technical aspect of setting goals. We wanted to dive into the underlying psychological component of pursuing & achieving your goals. Pursuing a goal that isn’t right for you will require immense will-power. But when you’ve found a compelling internal reason to pursue a goal, no will-power is required.

In This episode You’ll Learn:

The three phases of achieving your goals!


  • Have a compelling reason to pursue your goal - what’s your “why.”

  • Make sure you like who you have to become in order to achieve your goal.

  • Use the Goldilocks Rule - set a goal that is on the edge of your ability, not too hard, but not to easy.

  • How are you willing to suffer?


  • Make a plan & break down the steps to get there. Then break down those steps once more!

  • Build an environment for success & eliminate unnecessary areas of resistance.

  • Celebrate the small victories.

  • Schedule the time to work on your goals.

  • Be mindful of the excuses you’re making.


  • There are no final steps in achieving you goal, but mindsets and concepts you MUST understand:

    • Your life will not change the day you achieve your goal!

    • Don’t pursue a goal to become happier (that’s a separate goal in itself), pursue a goal simply because you WANT TO!

    • It’s about the journey, not the destination!


“The little failures are just an opportunity to learn a lesson about what doesn’t work, which is as important as figuring out what does work!” Jen

“You stick to it, not just for your self, but so when someone asks you for your time or help is needed somewhere, you can really easily say, “this is when I’m available.” Because if you don’t do that your days can really quickly get hijacked by something you didn’t plan for or trying to keep people happy and you can lose sight of your own goals.” Kristi

“Prioritization is one of the biggest keys to achieving anything you want to achieve in life.” Kristi

“It’s not achieving our goals that changes us, it’s pursuing them.” Jen

“We need to be happy in pursuit of our goals, not pursue our goals to become happy.” Kristi

“The best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times. The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in an effort to accomplish something that is difficult or worthwhile.” Mihaly Csikszentmihaly: Flow the Psychology of Optimal Experience

Thought Experiment:

Tell us, what are you trying to accomplish in 2019 & why? Maybe there’s something you want to add into your life, or perhaps there’s something you want to remove. Perhaps you want to start saying YES to more opportunities, or perhaps you want to start saying NO and set boundaries for your life. Regardless, we’d love to hear from you and support you on your quest! HAPPY NEW YEAR!